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  1. #1

    Default I need your advice guys.. mahirap po ang situation ko ngayon!!

    Hello sa lahat ng mga ka Mobilarian.

    Kailangan ko po ang advice ninyo dahil sa situation kung ito at sana tulungan niyo po ako.

    May Kakilala akong girl mga 1 year na kami kakilala at nagkakakilala kami sa Bus lang at doon kami unang nag usap. after kung grumaduate sa collage nagtrabaho ako kung saan malayo siya sa akin pero continue yung communication namin.,.at nagkataon na wala din yung communication dahil ninakaw yung mobile phone niya.

    After a year may iba akong pinasukan na trabaho doon po ako na assigned kung saan siya nagaaral at graduating po siya ngayon.
    Nagkita kami sa pangalawang beses at nag usap po kami at doon ko po nalaman na my boyfriend na po pala siya at 6months po sila ngayon..Kaya masakit sa akin kasi gusto ko si girl pero hindi ko lang sinabi sa kanya sa madaling panahon.

    Pero may problema po siya at sabi niya sa akin meron po siyang problema sa BF niya, lahat ng problema niya dito niya sinasabi sa akin tungkol sa kanilang dalawa, at meron time na nagseselos yung BF niya sa akin pero napag usapan na po namin na friend ko lang si girl at sabi ni girl sa akin na complicated daw siya dahil yung BF niya may anak sa ibang babae at sabi niya sa akin every weekend magkita sila ng anak niya at ng babae!!

    Every night ko po siyang dinadalaw sa dorm niya, kino comfort at sinasabihan ng mga magandang salita para ndi siya malungkot..
    5 days ko po siyang kinocomfort at pagdating ng weekend meron pong nangyari sa amin,., at doon ko po na realize sa sarili koh na mali ang ginagawa ko sa kanya
    at sinabi ko sa kanya ang lahat na gusto ko siya at mahal na mahal ko talaga siya.. pero sinabi ko na mahirap sa kalagayan ko ngayon dahil meron siyang boyfriend..

    at sinabi koh na maghiwalay muna kami ngayon dahil hindi maganda sa aming dalawa kung saan mag share kami ng love sa isat isa kasi may boyfriend siya at sinabi ko sa kanya na sinisisi ko ang sarili ko kung bakit nagawa ko yun lahat sa kanya na alam ko my bf siya..

    Pero ang sagot ni girl ayaw daw niyang mawala ako sa kanya, dahil mahal daw niya ako. may gusto din siya sa akin..pero mahirap sa situation ko mga ka symb..
    Nag usap kami tungkol sa situtation na ito at sabi niya sa akin ayaw din niyang mawala yung lalake na boyfriend niya kasi ginagawa daw ang lahat para sa kanya at mahal din siya..

    Mahal na mahal ko talaga si girl, malaki ang gusto ko sa kanya
    Kaya lang masakit sa situation ko mga ka symb..hindi ko alam kung anu ang gagawin koh ngayon..!!

    ito po ang mga tanong koh sana tulungan niyo po ako:

    1. Ipagpapatuloy ko pa ba ang pag comfort sa kanya kahit may BF siya?? (Kasi complicated po siya dahil may anak ang BF niya sa ibang babae)
    2. Dapat ko po bang ihinto ang communication naming dalawa ni girl para masaya na siya sa bf niya at hindi na ako makialam sa relationship nilang dalawa??
    3. Tama po ba ang ginagawa ko sa sarili ko na bigyan siya ng time na alam ko pala na may bf siya at meron nangyari sa aming dalawa??
    4. Ano po ba ang mga gagawin ko sa sarili ko??

    sana po bigyan niyo po ng oras at pagkakataon na sagutin ang mga tanong ko mga ka symb..salamat!!
    Last edited by elkhiehacks; 5th Feb 2017 at 20:59.

  2. #2

    Default Re: I need your advice guys.. mahirap po ang situation ko ngayon!!

    malaki ka na TS , alam mo na ang TAMA sa MALI , gawin mo ang nararapat upang sa bandang huli hindi ka magsisisi nasayo parin yan kahit anong advise namin kung di mo rin gagawin , wala rin . Gawin mo kung anong sa tingin mo ang TAMA at take the risk kung ano man ang magiging RESULT nito

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    Default Re: I need your advice guys.. mahirap po ang situation ko ngayon!!

    No offense but unless you're high on weed or other powerful substances, what you did is inappropriate - doinking her. Sorry I don't believe you only realized that boning her is a bad idea AFTER the deed. In a way, you took advantage of her for crying out loud. Your questions right now is immaterial anymore. It's either you completely let her be or you just continue boning her. You need to look at the bigger picture - she said she's in pain and what not but she chose to stay. It's not as if she's the wife and they have kids that it's kinda difficult for her to break free. So she has a choice but she chose to be a doormat that's why her BF is not sensitive to what the girl feels. Lastly, are you really sure you'd want a girl who would doink other guys in times of trouble? What if the time comes when she's no longer happy with you but she can't break free from you right away and someone comes along and you know what happens next?

    You're problem is easy actually. You were able to figure out that it's wrong to doink her so you decided to stop seeing her right? Right.

  4. #4

    Default Re: I need your advice guys.. mahirap po ang situation ko ngayon!!

    nakuha na gusto eh kaya game over na, move on to the next... haha
    a classic example of men acting like dogs

    do not comfort someone if you don't have the guts to take full responsibilty
    ginawa mo lang pampalipas oras ung girl onher weakest state

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    Default Re: I need your advice guys.. mahirap po ang situation ko ngayon!!

    Quote Originally Posted by quickie View Post
    nakuha na gusto eh kaya game over na, move on to the next... haha
    a classic example of men acting like dogs

    do not comfort someone if you don't have the guts to take full responsibilty
    ginawa mo lang pampalipas oras ung girl onher weakest state
    Quote Originally Posted by motoro View Post
    No offense but unless you're high on weed or other powerful substances, what you did is inappropriate - doinking her. Sorry I don't believe you only realized that boning her is a bad idea AFTER the deed. In a way, you took advantage of her for crying out loud. Your questions right now is immaterial anymore. It's either you completely let her be or you just continue boning her. You need to look at the bigger picture - she said she's in pain and what not but she chose to stay. It's not as if she's the wife and they have kids that it's kinda difficult for her to break free. So she has a choice but she chose to be a doormat that's why her BF is not sensitive to what the girl feels. Lastly, are you really sure you'd want a girl who would doink other guys in times of trouble? What if the time comes when she's no longer happy with you but she can't break free from you right away and someone comes along and you know what happens next?

    You're problem is easy actually. You were able to figure out that it's wrong to doink her so you decided to stop seeing her right? Right.
    Sinabihan ko na po siya na magpakalayo nalang ako sa kanya (hindi na kami mag text/ wala nang communication) pero ayaw niya at hindi niya raw gusto yun na hiwalayan ko siya.. Pero naka pag decide na po ako na hindi na ako makikialam sa kanila simula po ngayon nag usap po kami..sa totoo po love q talaga siya at love niya rin ako..kaya dun po ako nahirapan kung bakit ayaw niya na hiwalayan ko siya..at alam naman po niya na my bf siya at alam ko po yun kaya naka pagdecide na ako na magpakalayo
    Last edited by elkhiehacks; 5th Feb 2017 at 23:48.

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    Default Re: I need your advice guys.. mahirap po ang situation ko ngayon!!

    naku po sir,matanda na tayo at alam na natin kung ano ba tlaga ang dapat/nararapat natin gawin...
    goodluck poh sa lovelife nyo...

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    Default Re: I need your advice guys.. mahirap po ang situation ko ngayon!!

    Quote Originally Posted by motoro View Post
    No offense but unless you're high on weed or other powerful substances, what you did is inappropriate - doinking her. Sorry I don't believe you only realized that boning her is a bad idea AFTER the deed. In a way, you took advantage of her for crying out loud. Your questions right now is immaterial anymore. It's either you completely let her be or you just continue boning her. You need to look at the bigger picture - she said she's in pain and what not but she chose to stay. It's not as if she's the wife and they have kids that it's kinda difficult for her to break free. So she has a choice but she chose to be a doormat that's why her BF is not sensitive to what the girl feels. Lastly, are you really sure you'd want a girl who would doink other guys in times of trouble? What if the time comes when she's no longer happy with you but she can't break free from you right away and someone comes along and you know what happens next?

    You're problem is easy actually. You were able to figure out that it's wrong to doink her so you decided to stop seeing her right? Right.
    May point siya

    ----------

    On the other hand,

    this is my point of view on the matter at hand.

    Yung "pero mahal ka niya/but I love you" yan ang popular line ng mga taong paasa.
    which they use to justify things na clearly alam natin na mali na.

    Let's take this objectively,

    Kung ikaw lalaki, ayaw mo na gaganyanin ka rin ng kapwa lalaki mo
    respeto pare.

    Alam mo na nakakaloko yung ginawa mo sa gf niya.
    at hindi yun magiging tama kahit ano pa man ang sitwasyon.

    kung icocomfort mo ang isang babae for real
    hindi mo dapat ginagamit yun to take advantage of what she feels
    at lalon lalo na hindi mo ginagawa yun to lead her to you.
    'cause honestly, we all know that's not how unconditional love works.

    kung mahal mo siya like sinasabi mo, dapat tinutulungan mo siya maging masaya
    kahit wala ka sa ideal situation niya ng masaya.

    pero dahil pareho ninyong napapasaya si girl,
    syempre ayaw niya kayo pareho pakawalan.

    so kung iisipin mo ang para sa makakabuti sa inyong dalawa
    sasabihin ko sayo na lumayo kna.

    Unang una,

    Respeto na lang sa kapwa mo lalaki.
    kahit ano pa man ang sitwasyon nung lalaki na yun
    wala ka karapatan manghimasok sa relasyon nila.

    Pangalawa,

    kung mahal ka nung babae,
    hindi ka niya papaasahin ng ganyan
    at pipiliin ka niya. or yung isa.

    Pangatlo,

    Tulad ng sinasabi ni sir Motoro.
    Kaya mo ba i-take risk ang ganyang klaseng babae?
    na pag nakahanap ng comfort sa ibang lalaki.
    eh gaganyanin ka rin?

    --------------

    Yung sagot sa mga tanong
    Malalaman mo yan once na inisip mo ng mabuti
    ano nga ba ang gusto mo maging pwesto sa buhay ng babae

    dahil kung gusto mo maging boyfriend niya
    one thing you should know first ay ang irespeto siya
    at ang privacy ng isang relationship.

    pero kung gusto mo lang talaga i-take advantage siya.
    keep up the good work

    -------------

    Kidding aside,

    If gusto mo maging kayo. you should begin by giving her space
    enough for her to think and ascertain what she feels.

    It is more likely na nasasabi niya lang yan dahil sa comfort na naibibigay mo.
    at hindi talaga yun ang nararamdaman niya.

    Tell her how do you want your relationship to be.
    and give her the time to do the things she has to do for her part.
    Alam niyo naman ang tamang dapat gawin.

    dun kayo magsimula.

    dahil mahirap magsimula ng relasyon
    na nagsimula mula sa pagtataksil sa isa pang relasyon.

    babalikan kayo ng mga kasalanan niyo eventually

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    Default Re: I need your advice guys.. mahirap po ang situation ko ngayon!!

    . nakahanap kapa ng magandang dahilan na self guilt. sus gasgas na sa teleserye yang mga ganyang dahilan. tapos mo makuha ung gusto mo. ok, Tapos na sisihan. parehas kayo may mali. So what now?
    Nasa babae ang choice. hintayin mo na makipag break na siya dun sa lalaki. if iniisip mo na mas better man ka dun sa guy. Then be responsible and man enough to do what you said. that you love her. OK tama na napagsisihan mo ung nagawa niyo its LUST. and for sure its not love. You can't claim na you fuck her coz you love her. Bakit mo patatagalin ung pagsisisi period or is it just your escape goat?. Wag na kayo ma guilt dun sa Guy. anyway inamin na naman ni girl ung feeling sa niya sayo diba. andami niyo pang iniisip na ibang factors kesyo anu mararamdaman nung ibang tao o iisipin nila. wala silang pakialam sa gusto niyong mangyari sa buhay niyo. if dun kayo sa tingin niyo liligaya eh may magagawa ba sila. Dun naman sa guy nung girl normal na masaktan yun siyempre. pero may mgagawa ba siya eh hindi na masaya ung girl sa kanya. Hindi naman siguro magkakaganun sila if nabigay niya sa girl ung demands niya diba.
    Last edited by PESSI; 9th Feb 2017 at 06:19. Reason: removed inappropriate language...

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